Why Do We Hate Manic Pixie Dream Girls...and Boys?

Most everyone has heard the term “Manic Pixie Dream Girl” used at some point in their life, especially in film circles. The term was coined by writer Nathan Rabin while examining Kirsten Dunst’s character in “Elizabethtown.” “[The MPDG is a] bubbly, shallow, cinematic creature that exists solely in the fevered imaginations of sensitive writer-directors to teach broodingly soulful young men to embrace life and its infinite mysteries.” Nathan now regrets coining the phrase, due to it’s overuse and seemingly “fundamentally sexists” implications. However, seeing as Manic Pixie Dream Boys ALSO exist in the cinematic landscape I think there’s more discussion to be sparked about why this film trope exists at all and why it is viewed in such a negative light.


When you think of MPDGs who do you think of? Any of the women from the following films perhaps?

  • Summer - 500 Days of Summer

  • Ruby - Ruby Sparks

  • Clair - Elizabethtown

  • Sam - Garden State

  • Clementine - Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind

  • Ramona - Scott Pilgrim vs. The World

  • Holly - Breakfast at Tifffany’s

  • Marla - Fight Club

And when we think of Manic Pixie Dream Boys who comes to mind?

  • Edward and Jacob - Twilight

  • Gus - The Fault in Our Stars

  • Sam - Benny & Joon

  • Edward - Edward Scissorhands

  • Josh - Big

  • Buddy - Elf

  • Peter - Peter Pan

  • Jesse - Tuck Everlasting


So what do MPDGs and MPDBs have in common? They are often aesthetically quirky with off-beat personalities, usually due to naivety. They are usually written exclusively from the lead character’s perspective. It’s rare that we see their internal struggle seeing as the story revolves around the main character rather than the MPDG or MPDB. Both are often one dimensional love interests who exist almost solely to give the protagonist what they want, while the protagonist adopts a mindset of: I need YOU so I can grow.


If this is the case, and MPDGs and MPDBs exists solely for the benefit of their significant others without any depth of their own, it seems that some of the characters who probably came to mind initially shouldn’t actually make the list. And perhaps we’ve grossly overused this term to describe any vaguely pixie-like woman or man. For example, let’s examine Summer, from 500 Days of Summer.

500 Days of Summer - Dune Entertainment

500 Days of Summer - Dune Entertainment

Never have I witnessed a film and character so hated by so many people. Because of her quirk, flightiness, cute girly aesthetic, immaturity, and free spirit, Summer was quickly thrown under the MPDG umbrella but there are several reasons why she shouldn’t be. Director Marc Webb explained this by stating that, “Yes Summer has elements of the manic pixie dream girl. She’s an immature view of a woman. She’s Tom’s view of a woman. He doesn’t see her complexity and the consequence for him is heartbreak.” It seems many viewers, upon first seeing the film, immediately relate to Tom without realizing they are also viewing Summer exclusively through his eyes. Joseph Gordon-Levitt summarized it like this, “The 500 Days of Summer attitude of ‘he wants you so bad’ seems attractive to some women and men, especially younger ones. But I would encourage anyone who has a crush on my character to watch it again and examine how selfish he is. A lot of boys and girls think their lives will have meaning if they find a partner who wants nothing else in life but them, that’s not healthy…”

500 Days of Summer - Dune Entertainment

500 Days of Summer - Dune Entertainment

However, while Summer may not be a MPDG, I certainly don’t think she’s innocent. While Summer knows what Tom wants she continually ignores Tom’s feelings in pursuit of what she wants instead. And this is where I think the real problem lies, both Summer and Tom are selfish. A thorough observation of any MPDG/B story will often reveal a deeply selfish protagonist with a shallow love interest. This mysterious love interest is universally thought to be a consequence of lazy writing. But I wonder if there isn’t a deeper reason why Summer has received so much hate.

500 Days of Summer - Dune Entertainment

500 Days of Summer - Dune Entertainment

Although many people view Manic Pixies as negative, there’s a reason these characters have become tropes… yes they easily push narrative forward without having to delve too deeply into a second character… but as Nathan Rabin himself explained, “[The MPDG] exists solely in the fevered imaginations of sensitive writer-directors.” Could it be that these pixies are what many of us fantasize about as the perfect partner? Do we love the idea of them more than we care to admit? Someone devoted wholly to OUR wellbeing, someone who exists for US, someone who helps US to grow, someone who just want US to be happy, someone who makes US feel wanted. Yes, these are natural human desires… but they’re also self centered.

Clementine, from Eternal Sunshine is another manic pixie who breaks the stereotype. She summarizes this idea of selfishness best when she tells Joel, “Too many guys think I’m a concept, that I’m gonna complete them or make them alive, but I’m just a f*cked up girl who’s looking for her own peace of mind.” 

Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind - Focus Features and Anonymous Content

Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind - Focus Features and Anonymous Content

You don’t have to be in a relationship long before you realize that relationships are often, in their most simplified form, two very different people with different drives learning and willing to work together in love. And love is not rooted in selfishness… but rather sacrifice and support.

Has this problem of selfishness permeated us, the audience, as well? If these manic pixie dream girls and manic pixie dream boys are somewhat of a fantasy why do we sometimes hate them so much? Perhaps the answer is that we don’t hate the real Manic Pixies… maybe we only hate when the stereotype is broken and they don’t fulfill our fantasies.

500 Days of Summer - Dune Entertainment

500 Days of Summer - Dune Entertainment


  • The Manic Pixie Dream Girl Redeemed (?) by Greg Dember for What is Metamodern

  • Why I Hate The Term Manic Pixie Dream Girl by Tomori22 - YouTube

  • I’m Sorry for Coining the Phrase “Manic Pixie Dream Girl” by Nathan Rabin for Salon

  • The Definitive List of Manic Pixie Dream Girls in Film and Television by Jamie Loftus for BDCwire

  • Manic Pixie Dream Boys - Movies/TV by peterdi315 - IMDb list

  • Semantic Breakdown: The Manic Pixie Dream B*tch by Camilla Collar for Allmovie.com

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